"You're not going all in."
Those are the words that have been ringing in my ears over the past few days.
On the drive down from the Sunshine Coast to Sydney, John and I had an abundance of time to talk. No distractions. Just open space for deep conversations.
John’s a Projector in Human Design terms. He often sees things long before I do. The thing is, Projectors can’t just share their insights at any time. They need to be invited. If they aren’t, their wisdom often falls on deaf ears. I know John has tried to tell me many times what he sees. And I know there have been times I simply wasn’t ready to hear it.
This week, I was.
So, somewhere along the highway, I invited him to share. I let him know I was open and ready to receive.
When he told me I wasn’t going all in with my future self, it stung. But I knew it was true.
I’ve not been going all in. I’ve been sitting on the sidelines, watching others make bold moves and then waiting, wondering when the right time would come for me. But there is no perfect time when you’re stepping into a version of yourself you’ve never been before.
Only two weeks ago, a dear friend, another Projector, held the mirror up for me. She showed me the ways I was saying yes to delay. Delaying my own inner transformation. Delaying the future I say I want to live. Delaying shedding the identities that no longer fit who I’m becoming.
It was a brutal truth, but a powerful and necessary one. I’m lucky to have people who can speak to me with both love and precision.
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Because here’s the truth: when you finally see that you are the reason a pattern keeps repeating, it’s confronting. That inner negotiation, the one between your heart and your head, comes into sharp focus.
Your heart knows the way. But your head? It makes you question everything. It whispers doubt. It makes you wonder if you’ve completely lost it. Maybe even been smoking some whacky baccy.
(Just to be clear, I haven’t.)
But I can see now, I’ve been repeating a pattern of performing and proving, rather than operating from alignment and presence.
My ego, Nayla, is a sneaky one. She loves to convince me that playing it safe is best.
But best for who?
Likely her. Because when I play it safe, she gets to stay in control. She leads. She keeps things familiar. She convinces me to do things the conventional way because being different feels dangerous.
But conventional ways of being lead to conventional outcomes. And to me, that feels beige. Invisible. Unremarkable.
Life isn’t meant to be beige. It’s meant to be full of colour. Full of vibrancy. Full of possibility that only comes when we embrace our uniqueness and bring our unconventional selves to the table. That’s how we spark new ideas, fresh thinking, and the kind of diversity that can change the world.
I don’t need to change the whole world. I don’t need a massive stage. But I do want to change my world, and that starts by choosing my own stage and honouring the role I feel I’m here to play in this one precious life.
I’m not here for the applause at the end of a performance. I’m here to play my part, even if there’s no audience.
That’s what I see now. The freedom to be comes when you show up for yourself, even when no one else is watching.
Last week, I launched my new private podcast, Get the Stuck Outta Here. No one’s signed up yet.
At first, I felt the sting of disappointment. I noticed the part of me craving validation, from you, the readers of this weekly heart-to-heart. I hit pause. I let myself feel what was coming up. I had done something brave... and no one clapped.
Oof. It became clear: I wanted to be acknowledged.
But here’s the thing, I am being changed by the process. Recording this podcast has already given me so much. It’s helping me grow. It’s helping me make sense of my world not through writing, but through speaking. And that’s a whole new edge for me.
The more I noticed my emotions, the easier it was to let them go. And the freer I felt.
If anything, the lack of an audience gave me even more permission to be fully myself. That’s when I realised just how often we all fall into the trap of performance and proving.
So this weekend, while soaking up the sun in a gorgeous Airbnb in Sydney’s Northern Beaches, I doubled down. I recorded my next episode. And I committed to continuing, not because anyone’s listening, but because I am listening. Because it’s changing me.
And that, I think, is the point. Life is about showing up for the experience. Letting it change you. Letting it shape who you become.
I’m in for the ride.
Are you?
Keep going and keep growing.
Love Glin x
P.S. Three wins from my week:
1. Committing to myself
I levelled up my commitment to my own growth by launching my new private podcast. It’s a space for me to speak openly, to hear myself clearly, and to better understand the part I want to play in this beautiful adventure called life.
2. Our road trip to Sydney
We took our time driving down to Sydney over two days. My favourite moment? Stopping in Yamba to host a group coaching session with the latest cohort of the Unstoppable Woman program. Parked overlooking the ocean, with the sun glistening on the water as I listened to the group share their breakthroughs, it was magic.
3. SimplyGlin - a full circle moment
This week, I signed off on the first part of the branding for SimplyGlin. I’m so excited to bring everything I do under one banner. These past seven years have shaped me deeply, and this new brand reflects both the growth and the commitment I’m making, to align my work on the inner and outer negotiation in one place, while giving myself space to express who I am through my writing.
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